"Sometimes, the only way to get a good look at yourself is through someone else's eyes. If you're lucky, you'll like what you see."
JD on "Scrubs"
I consider myself very fortunate. I had the very good luck in my late teens to have someone snatch me up short and tell me that I was being hurtful without cause. The guy I had been seeing started avoiding me, so I had gone to one of his friends to find out what was up. That friend of his had the decency to sit me down and explain, in plain English, how callous and self-centered I had been. A wake-up call, but not done with vicious language. The impact of that conversation has had repercussions to this day. Although the damage was done with that relationship, I did resolve to be more mindful of others' feelings, to treat others the way I would like to be treated, to acknowledge that men are not the enemy. So, thank you, Mr. Miller, for that valuable lesson from your friend. I do hope you have many who love you.
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fb flashback from August 30, 2009:
"Off to another ballgame, then "Time Traveler's Wife" at Sea Turtle with my stepmom! Another fun day continues!"
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Sandra Voelker Delong
how was the movie?
I very much remember that incident still.
It was while I was attending electronics school at Great Lakes in the summer of 1977.
I turned 19 years old at the end of May and was still new to being on The Pill.
That means I was fairly new to having sex, too, and the Pill gave me the feeling that I could have sex without consequences.
The guy I was dating was Jeff Miller, and he made me part of his group that went to the Children's Ward of the hospital to entertain the kids.
I had one of those flamingo-style marionettes and would make it do silly walks.
That was a lot of fun!
But word got back to him that I was seeing another guy.
That's when Jeff's friend had sat me down and had "the talk".
Good for him for having the balls to do that.
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